A Parent’s Guide to Screen Time

We wish there were an easy answer, a chart or formula that could tell us exactly what’s right for our kids. But the truth is, there’s no universal number that works for every child, every season, or every family.

At Screen Sanity, we don’t believe in one-size-fits-all rules. Instead, we invite you to explore what digital health looks like for your family, guided by your values, rhythms, and real-life circumstances.

Start with Yourself

Kids are natural observers. The way we use technology teaches them more than any rule ever could.
Take a moment to reflect: does your tech use support what matters most to your family or sometimes get in the way?

Try small, do-able changes:

• Turn off notifications that aren’t from real people
• Move distracting apps off your home screen
• Keep phones out of sight during family time or meals

These little shifts model healthy digital habits, showing our kids that we too are learning.

Tables and Bedtimes: Create Device-Free Zones

It’s not about banning screens, but about building balance. Start simple by making meal tables and bedtimes phone free.
When families unplug together:

• Conversations grow richer
• Sleep improves
• Everyone gets a break from the pressure to always be on

If you’re hosting a playdate or birthday, try a device check-in basket. Kids are often relieved when they can just be present.

Accountability:

There are no internet filtering solutions that are 100% foolproof, but putting some measures in place can help you feel better. Think of them like a seatbelt — offering as much protection as possible from accidents in the online world.

Ride, Practice, Drive

Think of screens like learning to drive, a gradual process that requires coaching, trust, and time.
When it’s time to introduce new technology:

1. Start with a limited device such as a smartwatch or simple phone
2. Coach your child from the passenger seat
3. Gradually give more freedom as they demonstrate responsibility

Your goal isn’t control; it’s confidence. Kids who learn to self-regulate online become safe, independent drivers in the digital world.

Time Well Spent

Not all screentime is created equal. What matters most is how that time is used.
Encourage experiences that help your child create and connect, rather than just consume.
Watch a YouTube tutorial together and try the project offline. Ask your gamer to teach you their favourite game. Dance along to a silly TikTok.

When we step into our kids’ digital worlds with curiosity, screens become a bridge, not a barrier.

Start the Conversation

Only 14% of youth say they’ve had a helpful conversation with an adult about the online world. Let’s change that.
Ask open questions like:

• “What do you like most about being online”
• “Have you ever seen something that made you feel uncomfortable”
• “How do you decide what’s worth your time”

These conversations aren’t about catching mistakes, they’re about building trust.

Remember There’s No Perfect Plan

Digital parenting isn’t about perfection. It’s about connection, curiosity, and community. What matters is showing up, again and again, with empathy and hope.

You know your child best. With a bit of intention and support from other parents walking the same road, you can help your family build healthy, lasting digital habits.

Want More

The Screen Sanity Parent Handbook dives deeper into practical tools and conversation guides, from creating family screen plans to setting healthy boundaries for social media and gaming.

👉 Order your copy at screensanity.org.au

Together, we can raise kids who are captivated by life, not screens.